Surround Yourself with Positive People

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Surround Yourself with Positive People

A big part of personal finances, and life for that matter, is goals. We have touched on goal setting and have stressed the importance of having a plan for your money, but I want to raise an issue that you may run into; the people around you.

So you’ve set these goals (financially and in other areas in your life) and you begin to talk about them when you are around friends and family. You are passionate about them because you want to achieve them and you believe in planning for the future and pursuing your passions, but no one else shares that vision with you. They are all actually very negative about the subject, and begin to share with you their thoughts on your recent goal setting. Eventually, their negative comments discourage you so much that you begin to hear what they are saying and lose focus of yourself. They cut your goals down at the base and kill them, hoping they will never return.

And they don’t. You were influenced by those around you to change what you thought was best for you. You lose the passion to continue and just give up on it all together.

Imagine for a moment that the same scenario took place but on the complete opposite side of the coin. You had family and friends who were positive about what you were thinking and doing and they actually encouraged you to continue and achieve your goals. Would they cause you to give up? NO! Would they burn your goals and spread their ashes in the ocean, never to return? NO! They would want to help you, simply by listening to you talk about your goals, engaging in conversation about your goals. They would ultimately be the most fertile soil you could plant yourself in. SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE AND FORGET THE REST!

Now, I am not saying that you should give up on friendships because they do not agree with your goals and have an overall negative attitude that they display towards you about them. What I’m saying is that you need to question the future of the friendship and whether or not it will be good for you. If they will not encourage you, if they only belittle what you have to say, if they are NEGATIVE towards the things you talk about, I don’t think there is much there to begin with. Only time will tell, and you will know.

If people do not encourage you, distance yourself. If you think you are strong enough to withstand their negative comments you are kidding yourself and you were never serious about your goals to begin with. You need to surround yourself with positive people who will encourage what you are doing. You do not want to avoid certain topics (and why should you not talk about what you are passionate about?!?!) when you are with certain people. Surround yourself with people who will challenge you to keep going when you don’t think you can go anymore, people who will talk highly about what you are doing to other people, people who actually CARE to ask how it is going and want to hear what YOU have to say.

They say one rotten apple spoils the whole batch. True. But the opposite is true as well, if all but one apple is rotten, the good one will be spoiled by the rotten ones. Please, forget the rest, because they have already forgotten about you. Plant yourself on solid ground and within fertile soil. You will only grow as a person and achieve your goals if you are surrounded by POSITIVE people.